The Foolishness of Christian Dating Sites…or any dating sites for that matter

Image It is written:

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

…and it it also reads:

Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world.  And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.

The words “Christian” and “Dating” should never dwell in the same sentence…ever! It is a total affront to the God of the Bible.   Moreover, it is absolutely ludicrous to think that you can find “God’s match for you” through a dating website; Christian or not. It is even more foolish to think one can find a mate with this  pattern; which is the world’s pattern…and, that it may bring you success. I implore you to stop and think about the risks that are involved: Your safety, finances, and for some of you…your children. All for the sake of having someone in your bed every night. The Bible teaches us that we are sojourners on this planet…. so why do many Christians live as though this planet is our home? 

Yeah, I know the so-called TeLIEvangilists scratch your ears with promises that your best life is now and God wants you to have all of the “abundance” that it offers, but unfortunately….it’s not true. Secular humanism and new age theology teaches this belief…not Christianity. Here are a few other points to consider:

1. If there is money to be “had”, you betta believe that the adversary is gonna make it happen. In other words, these websites and services are not owned by Christians. True followers of Christ would find these sites foolish. 

2. Multiple marriages?..Just Stop It…there is something terribly wrong…possibly you. Let the Lord tell you what it is.

Note to the ladies…Proverbs 18:22 has the prescription: HE who finds a wife, finds a good thing. Not the other way around. Stop chasing these men! Real men like to hunt. This includes any manipulation on your part. You know what I’m talkin’ bout…”bible study” for two, chat rooms, sending a so-called “mass text” and he’s the only one that got it…, etc. Social media and technology has made these “tricks” more accessible and easy to execute with no accountability.

3. Selfish needs often will dictate your actions. Selfishness is a branch of pride (God resists the proud but give grace to the humble). 

If you have children, kiss dating goodbye (and read the book by Joshua Harris too). Risking your children’s safety and comfort is not an option. If your children doesn’t like him/her; THEY GOTTA GO! Desperation is deep-seeded and this issue needs to be handled by the Holy Spirit, PRONTO!’s time to fast and pray. …..for as long as it takes.

I pray that those that are feeling a little offended to consider that the above suggestions and exhortations are not from one that does not understand the perils of being unmarried. Divorced for 17 years, I know something about that life. God’s word is true. Contentment with Godliness is great gain! In addition to the fruit that we are promised; I have been blessed to have reared two children as well. I’m not saying that it was easy. Yes there were temptations, mistakes, and risks I took that I regret today; however, the Lord’s kindness, power, and provision is indeed sufficient then and today. This sufficiency only applies if you desire to live in a way that will please Him.

Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one. But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.  Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death. (James 1:13-15). 

….and y’all know that’s true…:-)

So let us fully grasp the will of God for His people.

 “Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.

Which one will you choose?


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